"I don't like them," is the phrase that's spewed out and often paired with a disapproving expression. The reasons may vary, but the issue exists across the board. Whether it's the friend with the bad attitude, the friend that is single or the most-hated male friend, there is a question about why the relationship exists.
My friends weren't well-liked in my last relationship and neither was the fact that I had a lot more male friends and acquaintances than he expected. He thought that my stance with him was compromised by my loyalty to my friends and male friends always had some hidden agenda. It was difficult to find a median, having to remain true to my friendships and still creating a comfortable environment for my significant other. I'm sure I'm not the only woman that has had to find the balance between the two.
I've heard of all sorts of reasons why men didn't like the company kept by their woman. Single friends are another common issue, having a problem with the advice that they give to where they spend their time and how they dress. They love spending time with you and hate on your relationship just so the two of you can be single together. Then there's the Martin-Pam combination, enough said.
The idea that a man or woman didn't like their partner's friends has always denoted, for me, a lack of trust in their partner's judgment. And with that logic it only leads me to ask, if she can't pick good friends, how could she possibly pick a good boyfriend?
It sometimes seems as if a man's loyalty to his friends completely overrides a woman's loyalty to hers. I believe that it ties right into the traditional concept of women having to sacrifice their lifestyles and replacing it with that of their significant other. Are young women still filing themselves into those positions? How are we supposed love and accept every friend that they've made in a lifetime, when they won't think twice about accepting ours?
bisou, bisou
Miss Emme
You should take into account the reasons why your significant other doesn't or didn't like said friends. I'm sure its not a matter of "I just don't like them" friends have the tendency to interfere and if you don't make it a staple to make it clear that your relationship is a "no friends zone" and separate your friends from your relationship it usually leads to disparity between your bf and your friends. #imjustsayin
ReplyDeleteWell, Mr. or Miss Anonymous, I never said that my significant other or my friends were right or wrong in any sort of way. I was just briefly depicting how the issue was relevant to me [I wish it wasn't]. And sometimes, women can't stand their man's friends either. Thanks for sharing your opinion! Keep reading!
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