Wednesday, October 27, 2010

Majoring in Marriage

Homecoming week has just ended at my university. The Bears led us to another victory and campus was swarming with students, alumni and visitors. Towards the end of the festivities of Saturday evening, I sat outside of our Jenkins Building for some fresh air. An older man sat next to me and asked me if I was okay. I told him that I was fine. He asked what my classification was, about my major and a range of other small-talk questions. Finally, he had asked me if I had found my husband, yet. Jokingly, I told him that I was divorced and asked him if he had found his wife. 

He had. He found her in 1991 during their freshmen year. They entered Greek life at the same time and graduated together. They hadn't been apart since. It was so Bill and Camille. 

This was the fantasy. The fantasy that so many young women leave for college with. Either by boyfriend with promise ring in tow or a husband-seeking missile, the fairytale ending to a college career seems to include an engagement ring.

Is it fair to us to indulge in such a legend? Women already outnumber men on most college campuses. And honestly, it's hard enough managing academics, a social life and other extracurricular activities without the joys and pains of a serious relationship. 

But we want it all, the perfect schedule, the perfect internship, the perfect friends and the perfect man. There are those girls [aliens sent from another planet] that seemingly juggle it all. And those one-in-a-million, college sweetheart relationships do exist and end up in beautiful marriages. Then there are those that venture out into the world of independence after college and find the same happy relationships at 30 and 35. 

I believe that there is absolutely no need to rush yourself into a relationship. My 22 year-old self looks back at my 18 year-old self entering college and shakes her head at inexperience and naivete. Yet, I'm still not prepared for the marriage route, ever teetering between the thought of white picket fences and suburban living and the fast, city, single life. Hopefully, I'll find the medium between the two; fast, city, married life would be ideal.

bisou, bisou
Miss Emme