Sunday, October 31, 2010

Earth Girls Aren't Easy: The Weight for Love

Big. Thick. Fluffy. Plus-sized. These are just some of the names we are called or call ourselves; women larger than average size, according to standards set forth by different industries.

There seems to be a different set of rules when it comes to dating for the plus set or so it's thought. It's as if we can't have another single flaw, so that we can manage to offset our stature. One must be dressed to impressed, hair always styled, have the best personality in the room and be smarter and funnier than every pretty girl within a mile radius. Our selection of men is even smaller, having hopes that the fine man across the room is interested in bigger women. And we have to avoid the ever-roaming weirdo that is interested only in the novelty of our size. 
We don't have to confine ourselves to any one category of men. And we most certainly don't have to be grateful for every ounce of male attention we get. Though the media has a certain disdain for fuller figures and anyone considered overweight [check out Maura Kelly's Marie Claire article], the Black community has an appreciation for the more Rubenesque woman.

[It's evolved into an obsession with Black women everywhere disproportionately altering their bodies in glorification of tiny waists, wider hips, rounder backsides and large breasts that many of us were already born with, but I digress. That's another issue for another post on another blog.]

More Black men than we think are attracted to the abundance of curves and are interested in getting to know what is beyond the physical appearance. I still believe that a lot of men don't want to be classified as "chubby chasers" for dating a plus-sized woman, but that's neither here nor there.

The dating scene can provide the same amount of difficulty for any woman. Do you think plus-sized women have it harder in the dating world? Does the media dictate what we find attractive? Do bigger men get more love than bigger women? Just curious!

I say we big girls stay classy, stay beautiful and most of all stay ourselves. The glow is bound to attract the right one.

bisou, bisou
Miss Emme

2 comments:

  1. i love this, first the statue, i remember seeing one in puerto rico and i fell in love with it.

    but when it comes to dating and being fluffy you have to always be dressed nicely, with nice hair, and look a certain way, carry yourself a certain way, have a GREAT personality to make up for the fact that youre not a size 10. i think media plays a big part of what they think a woman should be like. and when it comes to men, i feel like woman dont hold men to a certain image whether youre a twig or a log all men get love, but when the table turns its a different story

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  2. i agree with you i'm not a curvy sista actually i'm pretty slim but i have alot of girlfriends that are curvy and think them and their shapes are gorgeous and sometimes i'm a bit envious as long as their healthy which they are it shouldnt be an issue
    Anastacia

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