What Do You Want?!: The Non-Standard One & The Lady

This time I ventured into the realm of Terrell Brown, you're in for a surprise. I also interviewed my lovely N-Sista, Ugochi. She definitely likes a man's man. Get to know them!

Name: Terrell Brown 

Age: 20

Occupation: Student

Hometown: Baltimore, Maryland

Relationship Status: Very, very perfectly lonely

What physical attributes attract you to a woman?

Umm, well all attributes of a woman attract me. I find a beautiful piece in every woman. I have no preferences. I fall in love with every woman for about five minutes. Beggars can't be choosers. But really preferences, I fall in love with women because of their personalities. And umm, you know. I don't know, I find something beautiful in every woman. Honestly,that's the truth. That's the honest answer. 

What intangible characteristics do you find important?

Just, umm, that's a good question. I think the best intangible characteristic a woman can have is to be open-minded. I think that covers everything.

What's your favorite thing about Black women?

Besides their beautiful characteristics? I think many women and men would be honest and say their booties. 

So, that's your favorite thing about Black women?

I mean the shallow side of me. Yes, that is. Absolutely.

Would you date women of other races? Why or why not?

Why not? I would date any woman of any race. Race doesn't matter to me. If I'm trying to find a woman, I think that's really a f****ed up way to look at things. 

If you could give tell Black women everywhere the most perfect piece of advice, what would it be?

Quit the f***ing weave and s**t out and the make-up. Yeah, cut that s**t out. Like, I don't when that fad became huge. I think like in high school it became big because everybody wants to be a model these days. But I think it's pretty  f***ing annoying, honestly. I guess sometimes it's cool, but you can't just f***ing substitute your real face and hair for the rest of your life. 

If you could pick anyone in the world to take on a romantic date, who would it be?

Number one would be Oprah because I would hope that she'd break me off. Number two would be Adriana Lima, she's my new found love. Three would be Kim K. of course and number four would be Nicki Minaj's butt.

Not Nicki Minaj, but Nicki Minaj's butt apart from her?

Yeah, absolutely. And number five I'd have to say would be. I'd go with Kendra Wilkinson's rack. She has some nice boobs.

Name: Ugochi O. Nzeadighibe

Age: 21

Occupation: Student

Hometown: Baltimore, Maryland

Relationship Status: Single

What physical attributes attract you to a man?

Height (I'm short, so that's not a problem), teeth (can win me over with a lovely smile) somewhat muscular... loves a man that can wrap his arms around me, make me feel secure! Ohh and a man in uniform/dressed to impress makes me weak. lol

What intangible characteristics do you find important?

Intelligent, Honest, Confident, Strong, Motivated, Optimistic and Funny.

What's you favorite thing about  Black men?

Their determination and drive for success, strength and courage to overcome daily obstacles.

Would you date men of other races? 

I'm open to dating men form other races, learning things about their life/ the way they were raised but I prefer a black man because it's a common background we share. Plus I love chocolate (both candy & men) there is something about it. I just can't explain in words. 

If you could tell Black men everywhere the most perfect piece of advice, what would it be?

Never judge a woman from appearance alone, you will never know what you are missing out on. She might be the woman of your dreams but you let her slip away!

If you could pick anyone in the world to take on a romantic date, who would it be?

Hmm...it's hard to choose one! Lance Gross & Common!! (LOVE THEM)

If you want to be featured in a "What Do You Want?!"  post, email JadoreMissEmme@gmail.com with "interview" as the subject. 

bisou, bisou

Miss Emme

What Do You Want?!: The Equal Opposites

I almost feel like these two are the same type of gears grinding in the opposite direction. Both superbly creative minds, one defined and one abstract, if you will. This is one of my favorites.


Name:  Christina

Age: 20

Occupation: Full time student, office worker

Hometown: Fort Washington, MD

Relationship Status: Single 

What physical attributes attract you to a man?

I'm not really big on physical attributes, but I do notice a man's smile. If you have a beautiful smile and use it often that is an automatic attraction. Secondly would have to be the skin and lastly a fresh shape-up and nice facial hair. And oh yeah, height seeing as I'm 5'10"...

What intangible characteristics do you find important?

Honesty, creativity, goal-oriented, intelligent. 

What's your favorite thing about Black men?

Their ability to stand out. 

Would you date men of other races? Why or why not?

I would date men of other races because as long as we make a mental connection frivolous things like race will not come in the way. 

If you could tell Black men everywhere the most perfect piece of advice, what would it be?

To open up your hearts and not be afraid to love. 

If you could pick anyone in the world to take on a romantic date, who would it be? 

Hmm that's hard...NOT! Of course, Kanye West. 

Christian's interview was the first ever "What Do You Want?!" profile that was recorded. There might be more of this in the future!

Name: Christian Newson

Age: 22

Occupation: Student

Hometown: Silver Spring, MD

Relationship Status: Single

What physical attributes attract you to a woman?

Her butt. I just like thick, voluptuous women. I mean the face is all right, but it all starts at the core. 

What intangible characteristics do you find important?

Independence. Devotion to themselves, not to me. That's key.

[I asked Christian to elaborate on what he meant by devotion and here's the low down..]

You've got to be about you, you can't be worrying about me all the time. If you're worrying about me all the time the relationship's going to be all about me. I'm not going to stress you about what you do because I'll be doing me. I don't want you stressing me about what I do because I'll still be doing me. At the end of the day, that devotion you have to yourself over the devotion you have to me. 

What's your favorite thing about Black women?

The way... I don't want to say that this a bad thing because it can also be their downfall. The way they just are. Black women are not... It's like they need you, but they don't need you. They'll leave you real quick, then they'll come back even quicker. I don't know how to explain it. It's them not needing me. Out of everybody, Black women I'd probably say are the most unsubmissive. If that explains it at all. 

Would you date women of other races? Why or why not?

Yes! Because they are submissive and I can have my way with them. Not my way, but there would be very, very little argument. I'm not the type to argue, like other races don't argue. But I don't really mess with other races because I really do just like Black girls. You've got to be mixed with Black, have some of that in you. 

If you could tell Black women everywhere the most perfect piece of advice, what would it be?

To listen and communicate. Black women don't listen or communicate. They get very emotional real quick. That's all I've got for you, to listen and communicate.

If you could pick anyone in the world to take on a romantic date, who would it be? 

It would be you, Kassandre. Because honestly, you're a great friend and I just appreciate everything you do for me right now. Like even right now, where I'm at right now, you're helping me out. So, it would be you. 

If you would like to submit a "What Do You Want?!" profile, please email JadoreMissEmme@gmail.com with "profile" as the subject. 

bisou, bisou

Miss Emme

What Do You Want?!: The Ones in Charge

There's a reason why these two are the ones in charge! Meet Manny, my good friend who runs Fresh Honesty and Nkem, the president of the MSU section of the NPHC. 

Name: Emanuel Bennett 

Age: 23

Occupation: Photographer

Hometown: Brooklyn, NY

Relationship Status: Boo'd Up

What physical attributes attract you to a woman?  

Eyes, Smile, Teeth, Lips, Breast, Legs, Voice

What intangible characteristics do you find important?

Understanding and Trust. 

What's your favorite thing about Black women?

Strength.

Would you date women of other races? Why or why not?

Sure, people are people even if they descend from other tribes.

If you could tell Black women everywhere the perfect piece of advice, what would it be?

Love yourself and embrace your beauty. You are the most exotic, most powerful and most important force on this earth so start acting like it.

If you could pick anyone in the world on a romantic date, who would it be?

It's a secret...

Name: Nkemdilim [kem-dill-em] Uzoka
Age: 22
Occupation: Student
Hometown: Largo, Maryland
Relationship Status: Single


What physical attributes attract you to a man?

Like a basketball player/ quarterback physique. Must be taller. I like thicker, well shaped eyebrows. I like someone who resembles a feline. Nice smile, great lips. Nice teeth, too. You've got to have nice hands. Well-fitted clothes, everything has to look clean and no dirty sneakers. Pretty boys. Pretty eyes.

What intangible characteristics do you find important?

Sensitivity, I like a guy who's not afraid to show his emotions. You've got to be able to laugh at yourself and being gentle is important. And spontaneous! Intelligent, too.

What's your favorite thing about Black men?

They're drive. When a Black man really wants something, whether it's good or bad they do whatever it takes to get it. And I like the diversity within our culture.

Would you date men of other races? Why or why not?
Hell yeah. Why not?


If you could give Black men everywhere the most perfect piece of advice, what would it be?
Keep your head up. Psych! Black women really appreciate you. 


If you could pick anyone in the world to take on a romantic date, who would it be?
Lil Fizz. [she's serious] And Lance Gross.

If you're interested in having a "What Do You Want?!" profile posted, email JadoreMissEmme@gmail.com with interview as the subject.

bisou, bisou

Miss Emme

What Do You Want?!: The Honest Ones

The volume of responses to this survey has been absolutely amazing and greatly appreciated! Profiles will still be posted weekly and I promise all of your submissions will be displayed! With that squared away, there are two new people for you all to meet. 

Name: Nicole Edmonds

Age: 21

Occupation: Student

Hometown: New York, New York

Relationship Status: Single

What physical attributes attract you to a man?

The way they're dressed and how they're groomed. Also, a slightly bow-legged man. You have to be taller than me. That's a must! NO DIRTY SNEAKERS. No thick-ums and you cannot be fat.

What intangible characteristics do you find important?

A sense of humor is very important. I feel like a nice personality is so general, but you can't be an a##hole. Then, there's the obvious things like loyal and faithful. Also, I kind of like a guy who takes control. I like guys that are forward, like aggressive.

What's your favorite thing about Black men? 

Their complexion, oh my goodness! A nice brown tone is just amazing. And you can't be ashy. That's gross. 

Would you date men of other races? Why or why not?

No. I'm just not attracted to any other races. I can recognize a handsome or attractive man of any race, but it's not going any further than that. You gotta be a certain complexion to ride this ride. [laughs]

If you could tell Black men everywhere the most perfect piece of advice, what would it be?

Don't be on that bullsh#t. Stop being selfish and be upfront about what you want. And stop being back-and-forth. Nobody has time for that. AND stop lying so much, damn!

If you could pick anyone in the world to take on a romantic date, who would it be?

DERWIN! Pooch Hall. 

Name: Stephan

Age: 23

Occupation: Full Time: Student, Part Time: Customer Service

Hometown: Fort Washington, MD by way of Queens, NY

Relationship Status: Single

What physical attributes attract you to a woman?

Long legs, nice butt, nice teeth and eyes.

What intangible characteristics do you find important?

Confidence, there's somethings to be said for someone who can walk into a room and say nothing at all and still be seen off of charisma alone. Someone that has a colorful personality, I like someone that has many different interests and someone I can talk to without feeling like we're talking about nothing even though we probably are.

What's your favorite thing about Black women?

I see strength in black women. That's not to say that I don't see strength in other races but that's just a characteristic that always jumps out at me when I think of my sisters.

Would you date women of other races? Why or why not?

Yes, I am child of many different races and cultures and as such I am attracted to many different things. However, when I look at one race over another I'm not looking at the same things. I'm looking at the differences, in a good way. 

If you could tell Black women Everywhere the most perfect piece of advice, what would it be?

Because you have had the weight of the world on your shoulders doesn't mean that the strength you've earned needs to become the anger you feel. Those who notice your struggle appreciate it. 

If you could pick anyone in the world to take on a romantic date, who would it be?

Stacey Dash, enough said!

If you want to be featured in a "What Do You Want?!" post, email JadoreMissEmme@gmail.com with "interview" as the subject. 

bisou, bisou

Miss Emme

What Do You Want?! : The Pioneers

This is the first post [outside of my own] of the "What Do You Want?!" feature. Every week, I'll be spotlighting a young man and young woman who were brave enough to disclose their preferences. These two can be considered the pioneers because they were the first to respond to my request [thanks a million!]. Ladies and gentlemen, meet Thomas...

Name: Thomas N. Wynder

Age: early 20s 

Occupation:  Fashion Retail Management

Hometown: Detroit, MI [DETROIT WHAT!!!!!]

Relationship Status: Single

What physical attributes attract you to a woman? 

Height, I'm 6'4"...

What intangible attributes do you find important? 

Intelligence, confidence, class, culture, drive. 

What's your favorite thing about Black women? 

Their uniqueness. 

Would you date women of other races? Why or why not? 

Depends on what we mean by date... Casually, yes. Seriously, no. As my mother once told me, it is the ultimate disrespect to bring someone home to your mother who has nothing in common with her. 

If you could tell Black women everywhere the most perfect piece of advice, what would it be? 

Pursue what it is that you desire from life, not a man. 

This one's for fun! If you could pick anyone in the world to take on a romantic date, who would it be? 

Halle Berry

...and Tamille!

Name: Tamille

Age: 23

Occupation: Library Office Aide

Hometown: Brooklyn, NY

Relationship Status: Single

What physical attributes attract you to a man?

I'm pretty flexible when it comes to looks. I think beauty comes in all shades and forms. 

What intangible characteristics do you find important? 

Honesty, integrity, intelligence, dependability, loyalty. 

What's your favorite thing about Black men?

Sharing a common culture. I've dated outside my race before and sometimes when you make a joke about childhood or being raised by a black mother they don't get it but you know a black man is going to know exactly what you're talking about. 

Would you date men of other races?  Why or why not?

I've done it twice, because like I said beauty comes in all shades and forms. What's more important to me is how he treats me. 

If you could tell Black men everywhere the most perfect piece of advice, what would it be? 

If you come across a real woman in your life don't mess around and loose her. You'll regret later. 

This one's for fun! If you could pick anyone in the world to take on a romantic date, who would it be?

Drake or Aubrey Graham or Wheelchair Jimmy, whatever you know him as lol

Thank you guys! It was a treat to receive these!!

If you want to be featured in a "What Do You Want?!" post, email JadoreMissEmme@gmail.com with "interview" in the subject. 

bisou, bisou

Miss Emme

What Do You Want?! : The Quest

In the last post, I announced that I was going to begin my quest of finding out what Black men want. No, I am not being biased. I'm also interviewing Black women to found out what they want from their counterparts. Together, we're going to disperse myths, create realistic views and demystify the dating realm. 

These posts will be popping up soon! So, I'll leave you with one of my favorite quotes about love. 

"Love, I find, is like singing. Everybody can do enough to satisfy themselves, though it may not impress the neighbors as being very much." -Zora Neale Hurston 

Update--


My friends have convinced me to give a preview of the "What Do You Want" profile by posting my own!


Name: Miss Emme
Age: 22
Occupation: Student
Hometown: Brooklyn, New York
Relationship Status: Single

What physical attributes attract you to a man?
Teeth, I love a great smile. A tall man is definitely preferred; so are warm eyes, smooth skin and basketball player's frame. I also like a strong sense of personal style. A man in a well-tailored suit always gets bonus points.

What intangible characteristics do you find important?
I value honesty and openness; and an intelligent man that can hold a conversation and leave me with something new. Generosity is very important, so is a quirky sense of humor. A gentlemen with confidence and ambition is very sexy.

What is your favorite thing about Black men?
Their strength and their ability to persevere.

Would you date men of other races? Why or why not?
I would. I've always been open to the idea. There's no particular reason why or why not.

If you could tell Black men everywhere the most perfect piece of advice, what would it be?
Give women everything that you want in return.

This one's for fun! If you could pick anyone in the world to take on a romantic date, who would it be?
I have three! Idris Elba, Common and Wale. They're each very different men. It'd be interesting to interact with them all.

There it is! The first "What Do You Want" profile. Let me know what you think!

bisou, bisou 

Miss Emme